I’ve been with my LDR boyfriend since February and although we’ve swapped many photos and videos, even through snap chat so it’s “live.” And yes the videos sent do have his voice.
He’ll tell me specific details about his family, that I can verify through Facebook, he still doesn’t want to do a video call.
I’ve told him all April how important it is to me and he’s even promised “tomorrow” and then something comes up.
We finally had a big discussion last Wednesday and I said this is ridiculous, it’s so important to me and he said how anxious it makes him feel. That he hates video calls and even at work he sometimes avoids them for meetings, but has admitted he knows their importance for LDR and has had to do it with an ex who lives an hour away.
He says, I wish I could just mentally get over it but I get stuck in my head and I know once we do it, I’ll probably love it, but wants us to connect and laugh and then he’ll bring it up. He wants me to leave it in his hands to bring up. I said okay, but don’t make me wait a week, he said I won’t. Still nothing. (Edit: the month of April his mom needed emerg surgery and it’s been a rough one)
This is something we religiously spoke from meeting in January through games nightly.
I know I’m frustrated, but has anybody ran into this? I don’t want to break up with him, but I also don’t want what’s important to me to be pushed off either. I understand anxiety, but I feel like as a couple each others needs need to become just that, each others needs and goals.
Any advice?