u/Awesomesupreme12

31M, just feeling super lonely right now.

31M, west coast USA. I love to cook (classically trained), the ocean, music, tattoos, and all things nerdy \*there are exceptions\*. I have been pulling 60 hour weeks. I have a high stress job (ditched the kitchen life though) and and really just don't know what to do with the few free hours a day I have to myself. Let's talk about some random shit! Feel free to dm, I'm pretty down to earth and really could just use some getting out of my head.

My wife and I separated at the beginning of April. I was the one who ultimately made the call. I want us to be able to find our way back but I also want her to work on herself. I started going to therapy, picked up an extra job on the weekends. We are still kind of in contact but I know space is what is ultimately going to help. I'm struggling a lot with craving intimacy and managing my depression. I love her to death, but I want her to want to be better. I know she loves me, but I wasn't getting the love I needed and as a result I just kind of started providing the bare minimum (Food, bills, cooking, cleaning), but I I stopped wanting to do things with her. She's my best friend, but we absolutely stopped taking care of each in ways we needed. I'm trying to focus on myself, but I'm a home builder. I never do anything for myself and now I'm in an empty house with my dogs gone and I'm just left to my own devices. Everyday is a new wave of emotions. Any advice on how to stay grounded and not lose sight of my goals and or ways we might find common ground again?