Unwanted feelings during dating
To give context 28 yr m two kids. I was married to my children’s mother and have been separated for close to 5 years. Since then i have only really been on a handful of dates. Mainly due to me not being interested in many of these women. However there has been two women out of the bunch i have been out with that i have been really interested in. One i am casually seeing now. Both times with both women i have felt like i was obsessed with them and it didn’t feel voluntary. I liked them a lot, like a lot. But it was very detrimental for me to have these feelings. I felt like the thoughts i had about them whether good or bad would affect my daily moods and this is very draining. It’s honestly so annoying i feel like i can’t enjoy the slow pace of things because my mind wants things to be there already even after the first date or I’m just hyper fixating on them. The feelings i get makes me not want to attempt dating at all knowing how it makes me feel internally. When i am getting attention it’s good and everything is peachy. But when i am not, it feels like the world is ending and my heart and beating slower and harder. It’s like i feel everything x 10 and it’s not fun at all. I feel like living with ADHD and really liking a person is never going to allow me to live in peace and i need to somehow to find a way to live with it and calm it.