Question around no kid weddings
I had a quick question I was hoping to get advice on. We are not having kids at our wedding with the exception of my two nieces who are in the wedding
and my cousins children who will be babysitting the nieces. The main reason for this is between my fiance and I, our first cousins have a collective 40 children under 18. Our venue max is 180 and we are very close to that number. (Without the kids). The venue also is not very child friendly. There is unrestricted access to the ocean via multiple direct docks. We have been abundantly clear we love their kids but due to space restrictions we can’t have them at our big day.
Here is where it gets complicated. Many cousins are traveling and still bringing their children to the hotel with them the weekend of and apparently the Catholic Church ceremony too (despite not asking us). We can’t really restrict anyone from coming to a church ceremony but it does feel like it kind of puts us in an awkward situation where some children will be in family photos after the church ceremony now and I have no doubts they will also ask if kids can join the welcome drinks given it is in the hotel lobby?
Am I overreacting ? I feel like it make it a bit uncomfortable given some kids will be at the ceremony now while others will not. It also feels like people are just really pushing the envelope. But at the same time; we are grateful everyone is traveling to see us and get that arranging for childcare can be incredibly difficult