u/Away-Associate-8548

Hey y'all, so I am from Colorado and I am recently having trouble on a loan with an ex. I cosigned a loan with this ex because we got into a car crash in his old car going to Texas in a Nissan Altima. I cosigned with him so he can get a car on his own in 2022. I know I shouldn't have, but I wanted to help. Fast forward, I am now pregnant and need a car on my own but he is still financing that car I signed on but is constantly missing on payments. I have asked him before to please refinance because he is hurting my credit score and I need a car but he kept refusing. So today I told him I will be taking it to court if he doesn't want to refinance.

He was enraged, started cussing and insulting me and then told me he would sue me for all the times he had paid for my lawyer and the state for my DUI. However, at that time we were in a relationship and he had chose to help me because he didn't want me in jail. There was no contract at all about me owing him that debt.

My question is, would he be able to sue me for that if I were to take this to court? I feel like this has just gotten out of hand and I just want to make sure I can loan a car so I am set for me and my future baby. But him constantly missing payments (him knowing that and still refuse to pay) is making it hard for me to loan a car when my credit score is being affected. I have the screenshots of the conversation as well.

Edit: I also want to add that instead of refinancing the car (I gave him a deadline for May 25th) he is going to Texas instead. He also spends his money on tattoos and guns and a 400 dollar jacket when he claims he doesn't have any money and refuses to pay the car on time. He's also blaming me for him being short on money because he's paying off a loan from his job for the lawyer he helped me with.

Hi everyone. I recently found out I was pregnant 2 weeks ago, and I am currently 5 weeks pregnant right now. When I first found out, I was excited. I was happy to become a mom with a man who loves me and will do anything for me and my baby. So I told my friends, my family, and he told his friends and family. The more I talked about it at work, (I do work with a lot of younger women as I work in corporate beauty) the more I questioned it. It wasn't until I spoke with my boss when she told me to enjoy my youth (I am 24 rn) before having a child as it is life altering.

I have always been taught that as a mother, you need to sacrifice everything for your child. Nothing matters in your life anymore, not what you like, not what your passions are, your ambitions, nothing. Its all about your child. And I learned that from my mother, and growing up I sense her deep regret sometimes because she would abuse me. I'm scared to be like my mother and I am scared to live life with regrets.

I have been focused on building my future; becoming a paralegal to go into my legal career, wanting to live lavishly as I have suffered being in debt, and I am still on an ongoing probation of 2 years and won't be released till Feb. 2027 so I still want to be able to travel and explore the world on my own because I wasted already 2 years of my 20's. The most important part of all IS the debt. I'm on credit card debt because I lost my job before when I first got in trouble with the law and had no money to pay it off, I don't have a car and my ex tanked my credit score. I have to pay off the court still, and pay off a couple of loans. Overall, financially we are not ready as we have asked family members for money since we didn't have enough to pay rent on time.

After all this, my fiance still wants to push through. I have talked to him about wanting to get an abortion, and at first he was supportive. But the more it was brought up, I can see his hurt, his disappointment, and I have this feeling that he will build resentment towards me. He told me if I wait at that 3 month mark, he will leave me as he doesn't want to be with someone who makes him wait and take away a kid because I wanted to follow my dreams and live my life. And it hurt me.

Overall, I am just in this battle of choosing my heart or my head. A part of me feels such heart ache because in a way, I feel like I am saying good bye to the woman I want to become, and I am scared of that resentment growing. I also know we are not financially ready and knowing that my fiance wants me at home during my third trimester and after giving birth scares me because that's a lot of bills on him and i don't want to do that to him. I feel like we don't have to struggle if we just wait it out. But I don't want to lose him if I choose to abort, and I don't want to feel like I am falling off on God's path. I have so many fears, and I just needed someone to talk to about this.

Thank you for reading this long post, sorry about the rant. I am just very lost.