Same as the question. I consider myself fairly attractive, I‘ve been told so by my friends, strangers and guys do approach me.
I do well at school and have a normal social circle.
There was this guy I knew vaguely. He attended our school for some fest. Slid into my DMs through some meme I posted on my story. I found him cute so I continued talking to him. Fast forward to two months later, we developed a really good friendship- had inside jokes, nicknames for each other and A LOT of banter. We had like a sticker collection of me making stupid faces that we exclusively used. He complimented my pictures sometimes and then defaulted to teasing if it got too ‘soft’. He cared enough to entertain my weird questions at midnight when he was dead tired (plays football).
Our dynamic kind of worked because I LOVE to talk and he is the quiet kind who would reciprocate but not try to lead the conversation.
Our interaction was mainly on DMs, there was no overt flirting but there were moments. One time as we were talking I urged him to ‘take his shot’. Left me on read for 2 hours and then replies:
‘I think there is no point in pretending I wanna do it when I feel it and when it is real.‘
I was shocked to say the least. I was definitely NOT expecting this because we had a good thing going and it felt very ‘real’ to me. We have not stopped talking since but the energy is not the same. We’re both kind of walking on egg shells.
I feel kind of hopeless now yk. I feel like I’ve lost him as a friend too and also I feel kind of hurt of because there WAS something yk.