I went on a date with a guy the other day and I was very stupid about it. I asked this guy if he wanted to have some drinks with me at a park around 7, now ik that already sounds stupid but I didn't think it was that bad since there was a football game happening on the field in the park so I felt safe because there were a lot of people. At some point we were in his car because there were kids there and I don't like to drink around kids, when I was a kid there were a lot of drunk ppl around me so out of respect I don't like to drink near kids. Anyways I had a curfew and I told the guy I had to go home but I told him I didn't wanna go home I wanted to stay for a bit longer bc I was having a good time, and he all of a sudden asked me if I wanted to see his cats. I said to him I wanted to see them another time bc he was implying me coming back to his place, and he said "you can either come back home with me or Uber home" but me getting the Uber home wasn't an option as he was already driving off. Now I didn't really know what to do I was too much of a pussy to jump out the car so I just let him take me back. Now I wish I had enough confidence to put my foot down and tell him no but I have trauma since the last man I said no to was very aggressive and that's another story I won't talk about today. On the drive he promised me he would take me back home and at this point I just went into autopilot I just went a long with everything bc I wanted to feel like I wanted it even tho I made it clear before we met up that I didn't wanna hookup or anything. Anyways at some point I kept making excuses to leave, like it was getting to late or that my family was wondering where I was I even got a text from my aunty asking where I was but he didn't care. He kept telling me "10 more minutes" then it turned into "20 more minutes" and he tried recording me which was embarrassing so when he went to the bathroom I hid his phone so he couldn't. I just wanted to get it over and done with so I could get home and when he finished he didn't even drive me home like he promised I had to get a Uber.
Now I did do it willingly but I didn't want it, I didn't even wanna go back to his house.
I only did it willingly because I thought it would make me feel better about the situation.
But I don't I was forced to his house and put in a super uncomfortable position.