I’ve been single for a long time now, and honestly, it’s starting to weigh on me. I think one of the hardest parts has been trying to find someone who genuinely likes me for who I am, beyond appearances or assumptions. There are moments where I start questioning myself and wondering if I’m somehow not attractive enough, even though I work professionally as a model. It’s strange how external validation can exist, yet still leave you feeling unseen in the ways that actually matter.
I know I bring a lot to the table. I’m kind, emotionally open, intelligent, ambitious, creative, and deeply caring. I’m tall, athletic, biracial, and confident in many aspects of myself, yet dating still feels incredibly isolating. Sometimes it feels like people either fetishize me, overlook me, or carry biases they don’t even recognize. It’s exhausting trying to navigate spaces where racism, immaturity, or superficiality quietly shape how people connect.
And even though I know 21 is still young, there’s a part of me that feels tired already. I think I’m craving something deeper and more grounded now someone older or at least emotionally mature, someone capable of honesty, stability, tenderness, and real intention.
At this point, I’m genuinely asking: where do people actually meet good men anymore? Men who are emotionally mature, open-minded, not racist, and interested in building something real? Because I’m exhausted by dating apps and the endless cycle of shallow conversations and disappointment. I’m debating about going solely back to women, but I need help