u/Awakwardturtle04

Hello! I was wondering if you are in a deficit , what happens when you miss a day or 2 of being in a deficit? I ask because on the weekends it's a bit harder mentally to resist food or portion properly because im either at my moms house visiting or spending time with friends. I dont like to restrict myself because my mental health is more important and I love to live my life.

But I would like to know how it would effect my weight loss. Im not always going crazy on the weekend and usually have discipline but that 1 or 2 weekends when I forget everything and just relax - does that effect it crazily or would it be easy to "bounce back" weight loss wise.

context: My boyfriend and I have been dating since we were 16, and known each other since we were 10. I fell pregnant at 18, in the last months of graduating high school, had an abortion. I am 23 now and still with him, we had always planned life together and honestly couldn't be happier. We have been living by ourselves for 3 years now and both have such a fantastic life together, constantly talking about our future and kids, if we want kids, their names, how many, how we will get married, when we will, when do I want to be engaged and so forth.

We decided to let go of our baby because we were still in school, had so many plans like university and our careers and honestly were NOT ready to have a child. At the time I didn't feel anything "BIG" like regret or honestly anything good or bad, very neutral. But lately I have had this feeling like, I have this attachment to the potential baby, like "what could've been" but in the sense what my life could be but emotionally, my bond with the boy (for some reason we both know it was a boy) or how i crave to see what he would've looked like and getting to know him, like I feel maternal towards him even though he never was and never will be?Although I did not regret my choice and never will and absolutely love my life, I have this "emptiness" feeling only after 5 years only appearing now and it feels super weird. Btw his name was going to be Thomas and we didn't see it any other way before we made the choice, and honestly im not sure if its subconscious or not but in talking about future baby names, I can not find myself naming another baby Thomas even though I really loved the name, I found that I actually really dislike the name now, weird hay?)

Has anyone else felt this?