Im feeling emotionally drained. Me and my boyfriend started dating this past January so it’s only been a few months. We’ve had a few arguments and I’ve noticed that they’ve all been about my past. Today he saw on my Snapchat memories a photo of me and a guy from 3-4 years ago, he asked me who he is so I told him that was a fling and he asked why I hadn’t mentioned this guy to him before when he asked about flings so I said that I forgot about this one because i genuinely did, this fling was right after my last relationship when I was depressed, drinking and partying, it was a short term fling so I truly did not remember at that moment but he automatically assumed I was lying. There’s been other arguments we’ve had regarding my past and it just made me realize that it’s always about my past. I’ve never been in a relationship where a guy focuses so heavily on my past to where it causes arguments, he starts having trust issues when I don’t remember insignificant things or people who I knew short term in my life. There’s things i genuinely do not remember from my past because of past trauma I went through so there are some blurs in my memories.
So I guess I’ve just been feeling like I constantly have to defend and explain my past even when I truly don’t remember things I get accused of lying or hiding it but why would I need to hide something that happened years ago and has no importance to my life now? I feel like him focusing heavily on my past isn’t healthy, am I overreacting?