This relationship has been a rollercoaster and I’m always hopeful for change and the bests.
For the longest me and him have been super messy and it’s a reason why we would argue a lot.
He’s the breadwinner. Honestly postpartum was so much that I fell into depression. But this time around now being a mother of two I felt like I needed to change and stop making excuses. Maybe it’s selfish of me to expect that from him. But he’s always felt like he shouldn’t be picking up after him self since he makes the money. I started making a change when he would yell at me for having a mess. I use to feel like it was unfair. But my kids is what really pushed me to make these changes as I don’t want them with these same bad habits and want them in this messy environment. It’s one of the things that stresses me out. Recently my husband hasn’t been working, he also has been going through some health complications. He found out he has diabetes. He hasn’t really done much but game and watch our daughter occasionally. When he found out he had diabetes he tried making me feel bad about me pushing him to keep moving. The only reason why I pushed him was because he walks dismissed my pregnancy symptoms so I didn’t think what he was going through was a big deal, obviously until I found out he has diabetes. Since his diabetes was over 600 blood sugar that was a cause of fatigue. Which I immediately understood he needed to recover it’s been a week since he left the hospital. I’ve been trying to do my own research and tried making him healthy food options. While making sure my daughter is good. I’ve been so busy that our room is a mess and it’s stressing me out. I expressed to him that I’ve been having a hard time and feel very down and I just need him to help me a little. I asked if he could bring all the dishes in the room to the sink so I can wash them as I’m washing what was already in the sink. I also asked if he could just put our daughter’s toys away.I asked him I just need a little boost. I’m willing by to do the rest but sometimes I need a little motivation from my partner just so I don’t feel I’m completely alone especially when I feel he should be capable to at least do what I had asked. He’s been on his game and I haven’t said anything to him or were either out and about. I get he’s trying to regulate him self but the doctor said to also get some exercise in. Also I feel like him being in his game and laying around isn’t going to help him. I want to make it out strong. But when I asked him he eventually explodes because I decided yo cry and just lay down for a bit because I was overwhelmed with emotions and he started calling me a petty as bitch that I’m not trying to feed out daughter. I told him just give me 5 min I’m going to get up and continue to do what I was doing. And if he wants to lay in bed all da he can; I’m done asking you. But I do need a moment to just calm down. Plus I had given my daughter a morning snack so 5 minutes wasn’t going to make a difference. He continued to call me out my name my daughter was just there. He started saying, that I need to control my self in front of her. All I did was cry I didn’t yell at him or call him out of his name. He eventually took my daughter slammed the door multiple times calling me names until he finally left. He came back 10 min later saying let’s go eat and put my daughter next to me in bed. I told him I was fine and wasn’t hungry. He said cmon the baby needs to eat. I decided to do my daughter’s hair real quick and as I walk out the door I notice he’s not there. I called him and he says he’s in the car trying to figure out what to eat. I wait another 10 minutes he hasn’t said anything. After that I texted him and this is what he said. Please see text below. Also please let me know if I’m wrong, I’m really trying to make the best choices and I’m ready to take accountability.