I (27 F) cant seem to let him M31 go and detach, can someone help?
I’ve never experienced anxiety like this in my life. This relationship/situationship completely messed with my head. He broke up with me, kept coming back, gave me hope, pulled away again, there was another girl involved at some point, and I became obsessed with trying to understand what was real.
One moment I feel angry and humiliated for letting someone treat me this way, and the next I miss him so badly I feel physically sick. I can barely eat, I wake up anxious, my chest hurts, and I keep replaying everything trying to figure out if he actually loved me or if I was just convenient when things with someone else didn’t work out.
The worst part is that when things were good, they felt really good. So my brain keeps holding onto those moments even though the whole situation is destroying me emotionally.
I know I need to choose myself and stop caring about him, but I genuinely don’t know how. Has anyone gotten through something like this? How do you stop obsessing over someone who hurt you but also made you feel incredibly loved at times?