Am I Overreacting about my child's behavior when she comes back from her father's?
My 6yo came into my bedroom tonight because they were having trouble sleeping. I asked what was going on. They said they were picturing their father's father (paternal grandfather) sawing me apart because he doesn't like me. I reassured her he would never do that, and that he had not reason not to like me (he honestly doesn't. His son cheated. If he's mad we got a divorce, be mad at his son for cheating and lying. Pre-divorce, I always got along really well with him).
I found this beyond disturbing and immediately sent an email to my lawyers as documentation.
In addition to this, my child always displays significant signs of anxiety on days she's dropped back with me. They panic about any mistake they make, and they think I'm going to yell at them (for example, they dropped something down the sink accidentally. They balled up around my legs and sobbing, apologized over and over). They've been unusually cruel. They called my father a fat idiot and told their sibling they're going to hell. && they've shown signs of high anxiety--quick to be angry, frustrated, overreacting, etc. I would say this might be developmental growing pains, but it calms down after a day or so with me.
I plan on calling their counselor tomorrow and seeing if I can talk to her independently. If I bring up any of this in their session, their father will make an excuse or claim the same behavior is happening at his house.
I'm so angry and feel like I need to do something to make things better for my child, but I have nothing I can do.