Hi guys! I'm in a pickle right now because I have a small crush on my coworker, and I think he might have a soft spot for me, but I can't tell if that's what's actually happening or if my mind is playing tricks with me.
I want to ask him if he wants to be friends outside of work, but I've never been good at reading men, and I don't want things to become awkward between us if I'm wrong.
The guy I'm talking about goes out of his way to help me; there have been a few times where he can sense that I’m upset, and he subtly compliments me, and I think he fishes for my compliments (one time he asked me if he looked good without one of his piercings, and when I told him I thought he looked good with them, he lit up). We’re constantly locking eyes, and I’ve caught him staring at me from across the room. When we’re alone together, he’s always asking about my life outside of work and my opinions on deep stuff like religion, and last week after work he offered to take me home, and he continued to do it for the next two days. While we were in the car together, we bonded over music, and we talked about a bunch of stuff that plagues our minds that we hide from the average person. Come to find out we have similar struggles. While we were talking, I was telling him that I admired his work ethic and how he still goes above and beyond at work even though he doesn’t like his job, and he told me that I was giving him butterflies. And I might be crazy, but on the last day he dropped me off, he played a suspicious number of love songs.
The only problem is that I can't tell if he has a girlfriend. There's this girl he sometimes talks to on the phone, but when a coworker asked about it, he was kind of vague about it. I remember him briefly talking about a girl he was talking to, but he literally told me that he didn't know what they were. One time when they were on the phone, I came into the room he was sitting in, I asked him if he was talking to himself, and the girl tried to tell me something, but his headphones were on, so I didn’t hear what she said.