My son will be 2 next month, and from what I can tell he's developmentally typical if not a bit ahead of the curve (can recite days of the week, count to 10, physically adventurous) but can be a little bit aloof (we're working on better eye contact, for example). My issue is that since he's my first, I have no frame of reference for whether his tantrums are normal so I'd appreciate a gut check. He goes to a small in-home daycare but the other kids aren't as tantrum-prone it seems/
They aren't frequent, maybe 2-3x a week and usually when he's tired/hungry/over stimulated. The thing that scares me is the intensity and how hard it can be to de-escalate him once he's in that mode. Common example is a meal time when he's unhappy with something he's served... he will scream about it and we'll put him down but then he's sobbing for minutes. When he's in that mode he doesn't want comfort until he's starting to calm down, but there doesn't seem to be anything we can do to help him calm down while he's in the middle of it. Snuggles or talking him through don't help.
Today he had his first meltdown at daycare, she tried to get him to go lay down after throwing his plate on the floor but he crawled out of the crib and started hitting the wall. It just feels terrible and I don't know what to do about it. What are your toddler's tantrums like? What do you do when they're super escalated? At a loss here and feeling silly since I know all toddlers throw fits, but I want to make sure it's not anything out of the ordinary.