u/AtlasTh3Moth

My (F18) boyfriend (m18) who i recently got back together after a month breakup, had apparently been hanging out with girls a lot. Come to find out, he has a specific friend, ill call her L (20). I do not trust her at all. Shes a grown adult who wanted to be friends with 16-17 year olds (also took advantage of his best friend who was a minor) which already made me not like her being around. Then I found out a few days ago he took her to a cat Cafe, just the two of them, and got drinks. He has never ONCE taken me on a date before even a single time despite dating for 9 months.(i ask him out and plan the date or it doesnt happen). I told him i saw it as a date and cheating and he refuses to admit it was wrong. He has called me insane many times for thinking so and trying to communicate that. I tried compromising and saying i would be fine with them just talking but not hanging out because it makes me very uncomfortable and again, i see it as cheating.. He then proceeds to tell me he wont be with me when im "overly jealous" and told me he was picking her over me then hung up and ignored me.(also some context, he was friends with multiple of his ex girlfriends, even after a while of us dating. He refused to block them for months because i didnt want to block my only friend who happened to be a guy, even though after I did he still fought me on blocking them. He made me block evey single guy I watched on social media, and not talk to any, guys even telling me he would rather me die then talk to or touch another guy (he later said he didnt mean it). if we were hanging out with his friends and i talked to one he would give me a death glare and be sulky abd angry with me. All that even though he regularly talked to girls. Later after i had blocked him, he started repeatedly calling from another random girls phone (i dont know who but it wasnt L even.). ive had suspicions that he'd been cheating before, he kept a picture of him kissing his ex and kept all her love letters along with staying in contact with her months after their breakup and months into our relationship. He didnt tell me one of his friends liked him until after they hung out alone multiple times, and every night for the past couple weeks he has dissapeared without telling me and ignoring me until morning. I really need someone to tell me if I really am crazy for not wanting them to hang out or be around eachother in general.