I have a SM and SD and have always tried to agree with them or act in ways they find acceptable just to get them to like me. This stage only lasted about a year with my SD before I felt as though he loved me for who I was .But i have known my step-mum for 10 years and I still feel like if I want my SM to like me I have to dress as she pleases, act as she wants and do things to impress her. I have three older siblings who didn’t adjust their actions to suit the SP and this usually ended up with my SM talking bad about them to my dad.
I feel as though with biological parents they have an obligation to love you and it doesn’t matter how you act but step-parents create a whole new scenario.
So I just wandered, is it normal to feel like you have to earn respect and love from step-parents?