WIBTA if I don’t pay for my part of a trip?
A week ago, I went on a road trip with 3 of my (F24) friends. It was a 5 hour drive and it was planned for over a year.
About a month or so before the trip, one of my friend (F24) started planning the logistics and mentioned that we would need to rent a car big enough so that the “car seat” would fit. This is how we (at least I) found out that her husband and daughter were going to be coming with us.
Now, I don’t know much about babies but her baby is over 1 years old and we were doing a round trip, meaning that she was gone a little bit over 24 hours, not more than that. Maybe I’m out of touch but at that age, babies are supposed to be ok staying with dad? She eats food and all so breastfeeding isn’t the issue here.
My two other friends didn’t say anything so I figured I was the only one bugged by this; it was supposed to be a girls trip, at least that’s what it felt like.
Wtv we plan everything and we go, now, I don’t want to sound ungrateful or rude but bringing the kid did change the mood of the trip. I don’t want to say ruin it because we still had fun but it definitely wasn’t the type of getaway I was picturing. We rent a car; a mini van. The husband drove which was nice of him but I honestly could have done it. One of my friend was sitting passenger, my friend and her baby were in the middle (obviously because it’s the only place the seat fits) and me and my other friend were cramped in the back. We couldn’t even have a conversation together because my friend in the front would always be left out. Also, we didn’t play good music for the mood and all; we played Disney songs and kids music so that she would stop crying. My friend brought an iPad so that the baby could watch shows and all and she kept throwing it in the floor, who had to pick it up every time? Me. We also had to schedule all the stops with the baby’s sleep schedule so that it wouldn’t disturb her naps.
I didn’t complain about any of this during the trip because I thought I was being dramatic but I asked one of my other friend if she knew why the baby had to come and she admitted that it was a surprise for her too and that she was a bit disappointed too.
Now, not that money is the biggest issue but it kind of was the cherry on top. My friend sent us the money we owed for the rental car (the car we wouldn’t have had to rent if it was only the 4 of us) and the hotel room (a room we would’ve slept between the 4 of us instead of 3 if she didn’t book a room for herself and her family). And the total is kind of a lot, it makes sense but it’s more than what I was planning on paying for the trip and I feel like I’m being scammed a bit. She split the price of the rental in 4, so her husband and her are basically splitting her part.
I sent my part already but I’m a bit torn and I wonder if I should talk to her about it or just learn from this time and not make the same mistakes in the future. It’s making me a bit mad though.
EDIT : the road trip was for a concert, the tickets were paid over a year before and I was looking forward to it. Definitely should’ve spoken up but couldn’t just cancel the trip on my end without consequences