What would you do?
Hello. I’m not really sure what to do so just looking for third party advice…
About 3 weeks ago I found out my husband (married 3 years, together a total of 12 years) has been subscribed to OnlyFans and has paid approx. $2000 for custom videos over 4 years.
I didn’t 100% understand the whole ‘custom content’ part so started googling average prices etc and read that OnlyFans generally goes hand in hand with Snapchat - so I downloaded it and had a guess at his password and got it right. Turns out he’s been sending/receiving sexual content with over 100 random girls for the entire 12 years we have been together. I just don’t know what to think? What to feel? He said if the roles were reversed, he would consider it cheating. I feel so torn because I’ve spent so long with this man and he’s the father to my beautiful daughter (4 years old), but if I stay, am I just letting him know what he did is okay? How do I trust him any time he’s looking at his phone? Any time he’s in the bathroom? I’d raised concerns a number of times around how protective he is of his phone but it always got turned back on me being paranoid etc.
Am I overreacting? Is it still cheating if he hasn’t physically been with anyone? I feel lost and honestly not even sure I believe what’s actually happened.