Am I expecting too much from people when it comes to plans?
Lately I’ve noticed a pattern where people keep things super vague when making plans, and I genuinely can’t tell anymore if I’m too rigid or if this behavior is just normal now.
For example, I asked a friend if she wanted to grab a coffee Wednesday evening. She replied with: “I’ll let you know, I potentially have something then.” Another time she invited me for a beer the same day at like 5pm for 6pm. So it often feels very dependent on what else is happening.
I also had a Tinder girl who kept saying “maybe”, then later invited me out herself, only to cancel an hour before. That happened twice. After the second time I just stopped trying because it started feeling disrespectful.
At this point, if someone gives me a vague “maybe”, I just continue with my own plans and assume it’s probably not happening. And if they later suddenly become free, part of me feels like saying no even if I technically could go.
Not out of spite, but because I’m tired of feeling like I’m supposed to keep my schedule open while someone decides whether they actually want to see me.
Am I being too strict, or do people who genuinely want to see you usually make clearer plans?