My (22F) girlfriend (21F) told me she doesn’t want to have sex anymore. I don’t know what do to?
Hi all,
My girlfriend and I have been together since high school, and we have had a very normal relationship. We moved in together a year and a half ago and it's been amazing. We’ve had arguments and normal ups and downs, but over the past year our intimacy has dropped significantly. We use to have sex very frequently, but now we have sex maybe one every other month. I’ve tried discussing it with her before, and she said that she just doesn’t “feel” it.
It’s become our new normal to begin to have sex, but then she’ll pat me on the shoulder and say that she’s done. I’ve tried asking if there is something I need to improve on, and she has told me not at all. I’ve tried different things to set the mood, but nothing seems to work. I'll be honest, it has very much started to affect my self-esteem. The other night she told me that she just doesn’t feel the need to have sex. She said that she loves me, and that she still wants to be with me but that sex isn’t something she wants to do.
I told her that I understand and that I love her. I guess my question is: Is it unfair of me to be upset? I, of course, would never want her to do anything she doesn't want to do. Any advice is appreciated.
Thanks.