I wanna know what will happen if I put an actual restraining order on someone. Will i get in trouble ? Will i or the person get kicked out since the person goes to the same school. How does it work ?
I’m transferring for advance training & i heard a student I have a no contact contract with may be transferring to the one im going to. This person instilled fear into me because of rape threats. My center director didn’t even follow protocol and investigate the incident throughly. They just did whatever they had to do to move on from the situation. Is there any way that since im going first they can transfer this student elsewhere? I’m a bit scared & no one on this campus or even administrators care to kick this person out. Because it was my word against two boys. And you know how that goes in this world.
Sometimes i wish i never came out. Or i wouldn’t be treated so poorly. Ever since i did come out, my family has been on my ass in a different way. For context, i wasn’t a destructive teen growing up. Always did what was told of me. Tried to keep them happy. They would brainwash me into thinking going to church every Sunday was a must. Till I rebelled in their eyes and stopped going once i found out it wasn’t mandatory. We’d get into arguments because of that & one day out of spite i came out and told them i liked girls. Later on within the years i became of age & started to figure out my own path & self. I always knew i liked girls but i tried boys just to be sure and didn’t like it. Tried girls , loved it. I started dressing more masculine presenting and i felt so comfortable and more confident. I felt more free. I was still living at home but i had a job. I got my first girlfriend, I’d drive to see her since she lived 2hr away. One day i brought her home & asked if she could spend a night , I didn’t wanna drive n was too tired. Sure they said. Me and my girlfriend were like dumb n dumber, funny asf , we were laughing all night at one point. It gets late we go to bed, we don’t even have sex out of respect and the trust we thought was given. We just sleep. The next morning we wake up and I go to my kitchen to make us food & we are just getting stared down n the vibe is so tense. My girlfriend made herself extremely comfortable, which is okay with me but it wasn’t okay around my older folks cause they are old school. So normally if you stay the night you shouldn’t still be in pjs after waking up. I’m thinking that’s the problem of why the vibe is so off. My aunt is there and my adoptive mom is too. They are extremely Christian and homophobic. They were being so nice to my girlfriend that i thought they actually liked her. We go back to my room & I get a text as soon as I close the door. “ when is she leaving ?” “ your friend can’t stay any longer” mom: “ I NEED HER TO LEAVE NOW “ and now im just fucking confused. Getting bombarded at two different angles. Whatever right. I listened and after that ive never felt such hatred towards someone till that day. My adoptive mom kept telling me to never bring her here again that she needed to gtfo of here & all that hatred towards someone she barely knew made me feel like it was towards me and she was just taking it out on her. Because she couldn’t take it out on me directly for some reason. So I packed my shit n left. I was homeless for three months. With my girlfriend. They claim they didn’t kick me out because of that but because I’d bring her over. Few months later I had no other option but to move back in. Now few months later , we break up & apparently every girl FRIEND I bring im fucking. So if I ever bring someone home it’s because im fucking that person. And if I say im gonna go out and hangout with a friend of mine , later on that day i get spammed with phone calls and messages. If i borrowed their car for the day , my adoptive mom would make it a huge deal. My adoptive dad doesn’t seem to care , he says as long as im happy is what matters. That he doesn’t agree but he doesn’t care. I always get messages saying to go back home , or I didn’t ask for permission to take the car , ( when I did ) or how I can’t bring my friend home with me. Just random ass useless arguments. And I always wondered why and I’ve been in denial to say that it’s probably because im a lesbo and am hanging out with a female friend. To me it feels like she does these things to try to have control over my life. Like she does it in a way to keep me away from girls. Idk if in her mind she thinks by spamming me every hangout to come home asap is her way of trying to keep me away from girls. It’s insane I know. I just don’t know how to accept that, that is probably the reason. It’s happened a lot. I can have any type of female with masc style and she’ll still think im fucking her. She’s extremely nice when meeting but as soon as we’re out her view she wants us out her house. I’m moving out soon for school so i won’t have this problem for a year. But im just having such a hard time being comfortable within myself. It took me years to finally be comfortable wit how i present because of her but now i just feel uncomfortable not with who i like but i just can’t wrap my head around it. That im experiencing homophobia from family. Like my friend told me i can do everything right & still get treated this way by them. I asked her why she says that and she says because you’re gay. And it makes sense. I’ve thought about this before yk. Just am in denial.
What’s the reason behind jobcorps not wanting you to own a vehicle?
I’ve seen some peers of mind have vehicles and live at jobcorps. Some have came from living in their car. So that’s their home. Where they keep all their stuff. One of my peers told me he had to sell his car just to get into jobcorps. I don’t know if it’s just my jobcorps that is being more strict, but if someone is on a pass and off center and has a vehicle, they cannot come back to center to pick their peers up. On my campus we cannot walk off and have to ALWAYS PAY for a uber. Most of us have peers who are kind enough to pick us up to take us off center to get the things we need. Keep in mind, most of us come from being homeless. And may need hygiene stuff from the stores & cannot access them due to the stupid school policies. So when i hear about people having to sell their cars or are getting in trouble for having a vehicle is completely insane. We are there to thrive. No? How is having a vehicle an issue? 😂 yall just wanna see us miserable. My jobcorps claim it’s a “safety” issue. “ You guys can get ran over ( we live infront of a street that isn’t traffic populated btw ) or cops can be called because yall look like a riot leaving all at once “ said by the career center director. Minors i can understand, their kids. But limiting it to adults ? Insane.
How many UAs can one get before consequences?