My (23M) girlfriend (20F) told me she’s pregnant 5 days after we split.
Before I start I just want to acknowledge that this is entirely down to my lack of responsibility and Im fully aware that this is a consequence of my dumb decisions.
That being said, this story goes back a long way but all you need to know is I met this girl online last year and impulsively got into a weird long distance relationship without ever having met her. We argued a lot and laughed a lot but mostly argued. I felt sort of responsible for her as she came from an abusive home and didn’t have anyone other than her grandma and siblings. I should point out that we both have mental health issues from past traumas which I ignored to play hero. Anyway fast forward many months and I find us a place to live and after meeting each other a handful of times we move in together and it is nothing like what I had expected or what we had agreed. Her mental health wasn’t great and neither was mine but it just became a dynamic where I was constantly having to walk on eggshells around her as she was extremely controlling and manipulative. Anyway i finally plucked up the courage to tell her that we needed to end it because I need to learn to be alone and fix my head and so does she, also I am in a bit of debt and out of a job so I can’t actually afford to keep supporting everything anyway.
She comes from a strict background which makes it difficult to go back to her family if we split for good. She has said that if we’re done for good I will have ruined her life which makes me feel incredibly guilty. She is half gypsy so she comes from a completely different background and has a very different view on things to me. (She believes that we should be forever no matter what because we said we would be but it’s difficult to explain to her that things aren’t always gonna be like that, as this is her first relationship).
I took a few days to just think and find out she is in the hospital so called her to see what was going on and she tells me she had been brought in because she passed out and then told me the doctors found she’s 5 weeks pregnant, we had both agreed that if it did happen and we found out within 10 weeks that we wouldn’t keep it, but she has said to me that I need to decide if I want to be with her or not because if I don’t then she doesn’t want to see me or speak to me again. There’s a lot more to it but I’m just confused and scared.
TL;DR: my girlfriend is pregnant and she told me 5 days after we split.