I'm a VERY happily partnered person, my partner is my real best friend and soul mate. We've so connected.
But after my partner, my 'bestie' for many years has been a person who recently realized they are a S&L addict, and we're so proud they started their path to sobriety!! They just earned their one week chip, and we're all so proud of them!!!
For many years, I've been a source of "sub-clinical flirtation". I can honestly remind them how wonderful they are, how brilliant they are, and how trad-hot they are without ever having any actual hint of temptation towards doing anything boundary-violating. I'm way older, happily partnered, I don't want anything but for them to be happy with themeselves
My question is this:
Is is HEALTHY for me to be reminding someone in SLAA that they are attractive while they're going sober?
Or is that exacerbating their condition and I should instead be distracting them during their first week of sobriety?
(obviously, I asked my friend, but they don't know what's best. )