After my previous post in regards to my high conflict situation.. I saved up a few dollars and looking for a reliable body cam that I can clip onto my shirt for custody exchanges..
My budget is under $100!
Everything I find is either sketchy, bad reviews and cheap!
Did y’all have any luck finding one?
My son’s father lives with his mother.
Father has been high conflict since I left him a year ago.
I always seemed to get along just fine with his mom (sons grandmother)
Only a couple times have I stepped foot on the first square of their walkway leading from the sidewalk up to their front door.
There has been one other time when dropping off my son, I walked him up their walkway and he wanted to press the door bell on their ring camera. When grandmom answered the door she was real sweet/kind. Asking how much my son ate while we were out.. small talk about my baby. When his dad came up behind her he stated angrily “you can leave now”.
There have been many other occasions when picking up my son or dropping him off to dads, dad always has to make rude comments. Calling me a white n*****, a dead beat, an oily pig. Told me a time before that I “need to get off his property because I’m depreciating the value”. All of this while our son is in between us or on video calls.
I guess this is just a vent post, but has anyone else been through something similar? What could be done about this? Do I have to deal with this for the rest of my son’s life!
To add… a year ago I agreed to 50/50 with dad to benefit our son having both of us equally. When father got child support papers in the mail he then called cps on me on the pretense of drugs, to which I did test positive for MDMA. I immediately put that stuff down and took voluntary weekly urine tests and surprises drug test visits from cps, passing them all. He filed emergency custody.. where in court I agreed to doing a year of hair follicle tests while having my son every other weekend and every other Wednesdays for dinner for 2 hours. (Father was also using occasionally with me before I left him.)
He immediately put me on child support, I had just gotten a job at that point and my paychecks were nothing what I was imputed at/deemed capable of making. I spiraled into arrears. I have on video of him in my dad’s face during a pick up at my house. After I handed our son over and walked away, my dad (totally sweetheart and not a mean bone in him) tried talking to the father about how he can’t just get along for the sake of Charles and understand that we all have to coexist and do what’s right for my son. My sons father was roaring at my father, again calling me a scumbag to my father, calling my father a scumbag, literally yelling while standing at his opened car door, and our son was in the back being exposed to that behavior. He continued hollering at my dad that he’s going to see that I’m in jail before my next birthday - matter of fact, Before my next birthday! (Because I was falling far behind on child support payments) Mind you.. it was this past November and my birthdays in January.
This all has really broke me but I’ve been doing my due diligence to be the mother I know I am and do right by my baby.
I also share another older child with another man, and have a great coparenting relationship with their father.
This all really hurts. I’ve certainly been learning my lesson. The thought of being malicious or ill-intent never has crossed my mind. I wonder though if my son’s father is trying to get me to slip up someway so he can hold anything over my head to not have my son back with me more. It’s like he wants to try and completely eliminate me from my child’s life.