Guess i got too attached
So yeah first time posting here and honestly i wish i had a less depressing reason to do it. i'm 22 and my now ex girlfriend is 23. we dated for one year and she was my first actual relationship. before her i was always the dude third wheeling everybody else and joking about dying alone so this relationship meant a lot to me. she used to call me every night before bed even if it was just for ten minutes while she washed dishes or folded laundry. i got so used to hearing her voice every day that the silence now feels weird as hell
A few days ago we met at this little park near her place because she said we needed to talk. i already had a bad feeling walking there. she basically told me she still cares about me but doesn't think we're compatible long term anymore. i asked her if there was something i could fix and she said she doesn't wanna keep asking me to change little things about myself. that line has been stuck in my head nonstop. i keep thinking maybe if i planned more dates or communicated better things would've turned out different. she even gave me back this ugly little frog keychain i won for her at an arcade and bro that somehow hurt more than the breakup speech itself
I've been acting normal around everybody but the second i'm alone my brain starts spiraling again. i know i'm probably romanticizing the relationship now because obviously we had problems too. we argued about dumb stuff like schedules and texting and how much time we spent together. but i still miss her a lot. my mom told me first heartbreak changes people a little and i finally get what she meant
How do y'all know when it's worth trying to fight for the relationship versus just letting the person go?