u/ArtichokeQuiet1155

Thank you to everyone who talked to me and shared their stories about AuDHD and social interaction. I removed the previous post because there were some trolls. But I’m fascinated by what I’ve been able to learn about this specific problem from other perspectives. Also just knowing how widespread this is, and that I’m not alone.

I’m still working on the social cues problem and gathering more feedback on the framework I’m using, a “relational investigator” tool to surface missed cues and underlying social dynamics that contribute to awkwardness, feeling excluded, or not belonging. This is what helped me, and I’m trying to see how it can help others like me.

If you have personal stories, please DM. I think DM is best to preserve confidentiality and stay on topic. It’s helpful to me so I’m not working just from my own experience but also that of others. Or if you want to share publicly, totally up to you.

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u/ArtichokeQuiet1155 — 13 days ago

Hey guys. I'm new here. Context on me: I’m AuDHD-adjacent (not diagnosed, but highly suspected, check all the boxes, etc.).

I’m building a thing to hopefully address a problem I've experienced most of my life, and that has caused me a great deal of grief and confusion: that helpless WTF spiral when a conversation goes totally sideways, or a social dynamic gets weird, and I have absolutely no idea what subtext got missed.

I'm a technologist who loves rabbit holes, so I'm building a relational blind spot investigator: basically a private copilot/sounding board to help decode potential hidden dynamics and figure out a couple of potential solves. Instead of validation slop, just: let's Socratically get down to what you might have missed and what else might have been going on -- and what to try next time. Even if the initial read is wrong, I suspect the process itself might teach a method of widening the social aperture and improve social fluency over time.

I need 10 to 20 people who also deal with this to help me test a super early, manual version of it. Anyone down to try it out with me?

Also, has anyone found solutions that actually solve relational pain, instead of just salving it?

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u/ArtichokeQuiet1155 — 14 days ago