My mom is really talkative and a huge extrovert, and because of that I feel like she goes over the line. For context, I’m F19.
One thing we heavily disagreed on was during my senior year of high school when I committed to college, whether I should commute or live on campus. My mom wanted me to commute, and I wanted to live on campus. This turned into a serious family disagreement, and she went ahead and told all of her coworkers and friends all about it. She works at a bank, so whenever I had to go in for personal transactions, her coworkers would straight up ask me about it, and I hated it. I felt so uncomfortable. She would also tell me what she said to them, and she would paint me as immature and even mock me sometimes.
Another thing she loves to talk about is my insecurity about my height. I’m 5’1, and she always tells people that I look 10 and act like a little fucking girl. In reality, she’s the one who’s been triggering my insecurities and making me feel stuck in a fucking bubble.
The worst part is that I have an older brother, and she never talks shit about him, never. He’s 6’3, so whenever he goes to the bank or family gatherings, everyone is mesmerized by him and wants to talk to him, while everyone fucking ignores me.
I’ve tried talking to her and pleading not to talk about me. At first, it seems like she agrees, but then before you know it she comes home and starts telling my dad all the shit talking she did that day. Please tell me if my anger is normal, and offer any advice you can. And I swear to God, if someone tells me to “just move out,” IT’S NOT AS EASY AS IT SOUNDS. GET A REALITY CHECK.