Update to my post in January.
I’m trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or if my suspicions are reasonable at this point.
A few months ago, while I was pregnant, my husband completely changed toward me. He became distant, started sleeping separately, told me he wanted a divorce during an arguments, and was spending a lot of time around a woman from his job site.
At first, both of them claimed they didn’t know each other and that “nothing happened.”
Since then, I’ve found out:
- They were talking constantly
- She was sending him nudes from the beginning
- One of the nudes literally said she “burnt herself with that cream” and “wouldn’t be pleasuring herself tonight.” Which to me makes it sound like they had already talked sexually enough for him to know exactly what she meant by “that cream”
- They were seeing each other in their vehicles before work almost daily
-He came home from work one night singing songs about, “I’m in a better place getting better head” and “Sex with me is so amazing”
-She was posting videos of her singing sexual songs almost everyday during the time they were seeing each other. Which has stopped since they aren’t talking anymore
-She made a post saying “I love my bf”
- They later admitted they “dated” for about a month and a half after she already knew he was married
- Both of them have lied about multiple details already
But they BOTH still insist they “only kissed” and never had sex.
Here’s why I’m struggling to believe that:
- I found a bobby pin in his back seat
- The floor mats in both his truck and car were moved around and dirty
- There were shoe prints/scuffs up on the dash and doors
- They spent a lot of time alone together in their vehicles before work
- After I developed symptoms that my doctor wanted to test for an STI/UTI after sex with him, he started panicking and overexplaining everything instead of acting calm. He was googling symptoms, asking me if it itched, insisting it was “just a UTI,” etc. His reaction honestly made me more suspicious
(I haven’t gotten the results back yet on the test..)
He’s saying he wants to work things out, but I feel like I can’t even begin trying until I know the full truth. And that it isn’t genuine since he hasn’t been fully forthcoming.
AIO for thinking there’s a very high chance they actually did sleep together and are minimizing it?