u/Aromatic_Farmer_2417

Okay so im 19F and my bf recently had his sister get murdered. I asked him after the fact if he was sure he wanted to continue with the relationship, especially since it was a new relationship, and I told him i would still be there for him as a friend and be open to continuing a relationship another time if he was not ready. So since then he has been pushing me away and kinda saying and doing things that hurt me and my feelings. Everything he says and does I try to chalk up to him still greiving because I know it must be difficult, but it is hard to emotionally exert so much effort for someone who doesn't seem to care, or want help, or give me the time of day. At the same time, I feel extremely selfish for thinking about myself while he is going through so much, but it is hurting me, and I would still be willing to be a friend for him.