My mom and I escaped my abusive Dad when I was a child and now his daughter has contacted me
Not looking for advice or anything, just wanted to vent. Any advice is more than welcome though!
My story is very complicated and layered, but to make it as short as possible, my Mom and I fled home when I was around 10 years ago because my Dad was being abusive and had intense paranoia. He even threatened to to kill my Mom and me once in front of my 9-year-old self, which rightfully so raised my Mom's alarms and is what made her decide to escape from him. Also, my Mom was the primary breadwinner and who was paying for pretty much everything. If relevant, my Mom was living in my Dad's country, so she was also dependent on his and my residence card in the country we were living in (I was born in my Mom's home country and that's why I was also considered a "foreigner" in my Dad's country).
Anyway, my Mom "kidnapped" me and we stayed in my Dad's home country for 3-4 more years, pretty much living in hiding because my Dad could find out where we live or where I went to school at any moment. Thankfully, my Mom and I were able to immigrate to a different country around 4 years after we escaped. I never once again contacted him and he never attempted to contact us either. However he did lie under oath in court and event tried to get my Mom arrested at her workplace so he could "steal me back" from her, which thankfully he wasn't able to because my Mom had a very good lawyer and worked as a professor in that country's biggest university.
Anyway, it's been around 20 years since then, and I heard from some relatives on my Dad's side that my Dad remarried and had other kids with his new wife. Around 10 years ago, his wife even found me on Facebook and messaged me, kinda pleading with me to contact my Dad because he was "such a perfect person". I never did, of course, but I was nice to her too. I did tell her that it was okay for him to contact me, and I even gave her my email and everything. I figured I would give him the chance to contact me and apologize for everything he did. He obviously never did. And just a couple of weeks ago, his daughter, who is now a high school student, contacted me to tell me that she had heard so many good things about me from her mother, which I find funny because I've never actually met this lady who I've only had 2-3 short conversations with through Facebook Messenger.
I just find it funny that my Dad never ever attempted to contact me himself. According to his wife, she contacted me without him knowing, which could be true or false. It makes me wonder what version of the story he's been telling, and maybe even making my Mom to be the bad guy in the whole story after everything he did. I also think that he never really cared about me or anything. He was just using me as a pawn to make my Mom suffer, because he knew that taking me away from her would hurt her.
I know it's none of his wife's or kids' fault, but I really don't want to have any contact with them, although I've always kept things civil and nice when both his wife and daughter contacted me. Thankfully I'm living in a different continent as them now, so I don't think they'll ever suggest we meet or anything like that, but still, the whole situation makes me so angry. He doesn't deserve to be a father and I hope karma comes back to bite him in the ass one day. I wish his wife and kids well. I don't mind talking to her online from time to time, but I honestly don't wanna have a relationship with her, at least not while my Dad is still around. Am I bad a person for thinking like that? I know my story is kinda unique, but maybe someone on here has had a similar experience. If so, what do you guys think/how did you guys navigate this?