u/Aromatherapy_touch

So I live in a one-room apartment with my little sister. It’s a small space, and we basically share everything including sleeping area, privacy and all of that.

My best friend recently asked if she and her boyfriend could stay over for the weekend. I was honestly surprised because she knows my living situation. I told her no, explaining that the space is too small and I’m not comfortable having an extra person especially her boyfriend staying over when my little sister is also there.

She didn’t take it well. She said I was being selfish and that since we’re close, I should be more accommodating. She also said they wouldn’t “disturb” us and it’s just for a couple of days. But for me, it’s not just about disturbance ,it’s about privacy, boundaries, and the fact that I’m responsible for my younger sister too.

Now she’s acting distant and making me feel like I’m a bad friend for not helping her out.

Is it basically my fault for saying NO to her request? Because I'm a person of privacy, sometimes it's even hard for my younger sister to bring in her friends into the house talk more of my friend and her boyfriend staying over for the weekend

I have a close friend who used to date this guy for about a year. Their relationship ended a few months ago, and it wasn’t exactly a clean breakup—there were trust issues involved, but she never knew the full story.

Here’s where I might be the problem. While they were still together, her boyfriend and I had a brief thing going on behind her back. It wasn’t a full relationship, but we talked, flirted, and met up a couple of times. I knew it was wrong, and I regret it now, but at the time I justified it by telling myself their relationship was already rocky.

After they broke up, I felt guilty every time she talked about him or the breakup, especially because she kept wondering if he had cheated. Recently, I finally told her the truth—that I had been involved with him while they were still together.

She reacted really badly, which I understand. She said I betrayed her and that I should have told her sooner instead of letting her trust me all this time. Now she doesn’t want to talk to me, and some of our mutual friends are saying I only told her to make myself feel better, not for her sake.

I genuinely thought coming clean was the right thing to do, even if it hurt her, but now I’m questioning whether I should have just kept it to myself. Because since i told her about it she has been avoiding me.