u/AriaLeGreat

(This is reposted from last night because I forgot to remove the names of my sisters)

I'm just really tired of going back and forth with him about these things. Some background:

1. l've told him several times I do not have the emotional capacity to be his therapist. I am constantly placed in the mediator role between various members of my nuclear family
2. My father and his siblings are some of the most manipulative, toxic people that exist (bipolar disorder, mental/physical abuse, gambling addictions, financial infidelity/fraud, and general lack of accountability while also covering for each others f ups)
3. His parents have been dying for the past decade. I don't personally care as we've never been close.
4. Additionally I personally resent them because they've been the root of the eternalized psychopathic environment
5. I don't have money to make the trip to see his family, and he knows this, but still tries to guilt trip me
6. The "grudge" he's referring to is the grudge we hold due to physical abuse in our childhood, him cheating on my mom consistently, him gambling thousands of dollars down the drain while lying about it, him opening credit cards in others names, him stealing money directly from accounts... etc. Not meager petty stuff.

Addl info: Ong Noi means grandpa in Vietnamese

Side Note: I see the hypocrisy in asking him not to blow up my phone and then proceeding to send several long texts

I’m just really tired of going back and forth with him about these things. Some background:

1. I’ve told him several times I do not have the emotional capacity to be his therapist. I am constantly placed in the mediator role between various members of my nuclear family
2. My father and his siblings are some of the most manipulative, toxic people that exist (bipolar disorder, mental/physical abuse, gambling addictions, financial infidelity/fraud, and general lack of accountability while also covering for each others f ups)
3. His parents have been dying for the past decade. I don’t personally care as we’ve never been close. Additionally I personally resent them because they’ve been the root of the eternalized psychopathic environment
4. I don’t have money to make the trip to see his family, and he knows this, but still tries to guilt trip me
5. The “grudge” he’s referring to is the grudge we hold due to physical abuse in our childhood, him cheating on my mom consistently, him gambling thousands of dollars down the drain while lying about it, him opening credit cards in others names, him stealing money directly from accounts… etc. Not meager petty stuff.

Addl info: Ong Noi means grandpa in Vietnamese, Ba Noi means grandma