u/ArgentStrk

I (27f) don't have a libido, like at all. This isn't something new, I've just sorta always been this way. I met my husband in college and we eventually had sex. Things were a lot more active when we started dating. I think I was more into it then because it was new/exciting. This probably faded 3 years into the relationship. Now we're married and have a baby. I feel bad for my husband because he clearly has needs, but I have zero desire to have sexual contact. I also don't want to fake it, so we often just don't have sex. Even the thought of having sex once a month sounds exhausting. It's not my husband. I find him incredibly attractive, great personality, and I love him to bits! I just don't see the fascination or desire. When we do have sex, it feels good I guess, but I'm always somewhere else mentally. Thinking about what I have to do next. Or how long is this going to last? I don't crave it or day dream about it. It's not something I hold to high regard, but he does. He's always kind, doesn't pressure me, but I feel like a bag of shit... Why is it so difficult? Do I have a real physiological problem? Is there anything I can do myself? Or should I be talking to a doctor? Any advise on how to fix my broken libido would be appreciated 🙏🏻