u/Aqvuisha

Hello...

So....I got a boyfriend haha...

Don't you worry guys, I talked to him before that. I asked him about asexuality, his familly, religion, sexuality. And I was genuinely happy and shy when I asked him out. Afterwards I hopped on call with a friend to talk about it and to ask for advice and everything was soooo nice. I couldn't stop smiling. I was so excited. But...

After the call was over I texted him again. We talked a little and then he told me that I had a sexy voice, I encouraged him to tell me more cuz I was happy that he liked me and liked my voice. But then things got freakier and he sent me pictures and even a video. I thought I could get trough it, just like watching porn. But unlike watching I had to be an active participant... 🫤🙁

At first I was curious so I allowed it to go on, but I legit got very bored very quickly. And the way he texted with me changed aswell (I noticed) more hearts, more endearments. Couldn't things have just stayed the same???

Anyway. While that whole thing was happening, he told me what he would do to me and to let him know if I ever pleasure myself (he'd like to be on the phone with me 😖) . And I was like "yeah, for sure". I got bored and uncomfortable, so I said that I was gonna go to sleep.

Now I am thinking that he didn't really get me and doesn't actually understand what being asexual means, even though he said he could live without sex. That all happenend on the same day of us becoming a couple and now I am very uncomfortable texting him :(

Idk what to do, he said he hadn't had such a good sleep in a while. And that he has something to live for now.

Maybe I got scared because it got sexual too quickly?

Hello, I am 21[F], and I am considering getting into a long-distance relationship with a guy from another country. We have known each other for 2+ years. We had a 1-year talking break, but recently he texted me again, and I have been genuinely excited to hear from him. Our conversations were still chill, and we decided to game on Friday 😄. The thing is...I am still on the aroace spectrum. And I might not want to do some lovey dovey things with him and I might not get intense feelings of love for him, I'm scared that it might be an issue. And the whole sex thing as well... I don't get a physical attraction towards anyone, but I do want a non-intense romantic relationship.

When we started talking, I did tell him that I was asexual (he still flirted with me after that). Idk If he remembers that. I guess I just need to communicate with him if I actually do want to try to have a relationship with him. Maybe I shouldn't say anything and stay friends until he asks me to be his gf? Maybe I shouldn't ruin a good friendship. But I think we might be compatible tgt and with a lot of talking we might have a long future ahead of us.... ☺️🤭. I am just writing my thoughts out on Reddit rn 😅. I hope everything works out for me.