u/Aquarius7072025

So I (29M) found out from my husband (32M) that my friend K (29F) believes I am a gold digger. I have a bad habit of letting jokes just be jokes. A little backstory, K has been my friend for a 1yr and a half. My husband and I work in a hospital, but I wasn't always working in one. I had a job different jo from healthcare. I went to school, where I met K. I started talking to K because she didn't have a car at the time, and I invited her for lunch. When I started school, I had to leave my full-time job because I wanted to take the risk of going into healthcare. K had an on-and-off boyfriend. When going to school with her once in a while, she would ask me how it is being in a relationship with another man. Simple basic questions, like how many chores I do, how much of the bills I pay, and other questions like that. At the time, I barely met K, so I would say basic 50/50. I was lying, but being a one-week friendship, she didn't need to know all that information. I drove my husband's car, which is considered a luxury car ( I never really cared about cars, so I know very little about them). K was obsessed with the car. In school, I had two other friends I met, but they were completely different from K. One more thing is that the class I took, I was the only male for most of the 11-month program. One part of the class was that we had to practice EKGs on each other, and the whole class truly believed I was straight. So you know how that would go. I would also egg on my haters in that class, nothing too crazy, but everyone thought I was stupid rich, and I would go along with it because I truly didn't care what they thought about me.

One day, K asked me if I was stupid rich and told her no, but some people had already made rumors about me before I had ever said anything to them. I honestly have no idea where these rumors started, but it was fun going along with them. Time passed, and one day I told K that I didn't even have a job. K was shocked. She asked me why I had no job. I told her that I left my hometown to be with my husband. I left everything for him, but I've always been applying for work. When they found out I was going to school, I would get "we decided to go another route." K made a comment about me just being taken care of by my husband. I told her I obviously have money saved. She did make a comment about it just being a gay thing. I didn't really care at the moment and didn't think too much about it. As the friendship continued, K told me that she wrecked her car because she and her boyfriend got in a fight about him putting his family first. K is Filipina, and her boyfriend is Mexican, if that changes anything. K also wanted to be an influencer. K's boyfriend worked for Tesla, and he would get mad that she struggled to keep her job.

K finished school, got a job at a nice hospital, getting paid pretty well. She loved it. My husband and I needed a house sitter for our trip we planned. I asked K, and she was excited to house sit. We offered to pay her, but she said no because she needed time away from her parents ( she lives rent-free at her parents' place). When we gave her a tour of the place, she told my husband that we are living poor. My husband didn't tell me until we got back from our trip. I just thought K was mad because of the breakup. Time passes, and I invited all my school friends for a dinner hangout. We went to a Korean BBQ and ate so much. We all paid except K. Then K wanted to try a dessert place, and we went. I had to use the bathroom, left K, my husband, and J (another school friend to join us). K asked my husband about what I bring to him. He obviously got mad but didn't want to kill the mood. Talking about how K feels that I'm just taking advantage of him. I never told K that I got a hospital job in the middle of school. So she believed that I hadn't been working this entire time. J told K why does she care so much about what I do in life. I found out all of this when I dropped them off, and J sent me a text, and my husband told me everything.

I slowly stopped talking to K. I bumped into K and her twin at the mall when I was birthday shopping for my husband and J. K made a comment on where her birthday gift and Christmas gift. I told her I didn't get her one because she started flaking on our friendship. I just made it seem like we grew apart. K made the comment, "Oh, did you make your husband broke already?" I got annoyed but chose to ignore it. K's twin made a shocked face at her. K kept on going on, and on, then I got tired. I said, "K, I understand that you are clearly jealous of me and my life. You live with your parents in a house that is worth $800k. You pay no rent, and you got fired from your hospital job. It's not my fault that your man puts all his money into his family and is too broke to support your lazy gold-digging ass. Instead of judging me, ask yourself how you got fired two weeks into your high-paying job."

I felt bad after that, but I realized she was never a friend. All K wanted was for people to take care of her. I would let her borrow money she never paid back. Well, that is a $ 900 lesson I had to learn. K called me and asshole that day, but she left crying and making a scene to the point her twin ditched her, and she had to be escorted out by security. As she was leaving, she slapped a lady's drink from her hand, and that's why K was escorted out. Thank you for taking the time to read this.