Very difficult situation - advice pls!
Hey guys, im so sorry for the long post in advance!
Im 32F and for 8 months ive been dating a 38M i met through a church event. He has been in my country (UK) for about 10 years, but he's originally from another European country. He was on track to get sponsorship from his company so that he could gain his permanent visa, but 1 month into our relationship his company advised him they could no longer sponsor him. As his visa was running out in 5 months, he asked me if i would be willing to do a partner sponsorship with him. I thought it was way too soon, so I said no and broke things off. He reached out to me a few weeks later saying he wanted to get back together even if I wouldnt sponsor him, and becuase i had strong feelings i agreed.
3 months later, he ended up having to leave and go back home. We have now been together 8 months (4 months real life, 4 months long distance) and we still love each other, but the only way we can be together is if i move to his country (where i would lose my great job and i dont speak the language), or if i sponsor him to come here. I don't know if its reasonable for me to still be concerned about it, just becuase i feel like it puts a lot of pressure on our relationship after a relatively short amount of time. But im so conflicted because i know he has no other way of coming. I've really been praying about it but still don't feel peace with either decision.
Would greatly appreciate your advice or previous experiences!
xx