Choosing privacy over “help” during postpartum.
Hey guys!
So I’m 25 weeks pregnant right now and I live in Canada, living with my husband. Our parents live far far away from us. We are from South Asia.
Anyways since I got pregnant, our parents and other relatives are literally forcing us to bring our parents into our 1 bed and 1 bath apartment because they think we won’t be able to handle postpartum without them. But our take on this is completely opposite. We want to heal and bond with our baby on our own and no matter how tough it might get we want this time to be just “US”. At least for the first few months of my baby’s life we would love to be the only one to take care of her. Is that tooooo selfish ? Am
I appearing to be too over confident ? Why am I being criticized to be the woman who is very much clear about what she wants and how she wants it. My gut feeling says that I am going to be just fine and I will enjoy it Infact them being around is going to stress me out a lot as they are the type that judge and fear monger all the time.
There’s also going to be a financial strain on us for bringing them here. All things considered I strongly feel it’s the best decision for both me and my baby. I need my toilet and my bedroom to myself more than anything right now. Privacy is the most important thing for me right now, even if it means doing everything without a village. That’s just who I am.
I hope I’m not doing a mistake listening to my heart. If anyone has done postpartum alone with their partner only without any external help , please share your advices too so that I can best prepare.