tagged this as venting because i’m not sure what to tag it as. not asking for money, links for resources if anything.
i left my abuser almost a year ago. i’m also disabled, but still in the process of applying for disability. i have found that there are little to no resources for people in situations like mine after leaving and am trying to see if anyone knows of any or has any suggestions.
i’ve posted in financial help groups a few times and am downvoted to hell; i’m not sure why, but it’s incredibly disheartening. the last time i posted i was asking for advice on what i might be able to do to bring in an income and both the post itself and a comment explaining why i can’t work (i have a brain tumor and a handful of complex conditions that are not currently well managed and have significantly impacted my cognitive abilities) were downvoted multiple times. i understand it’s reddit and i shouldn’t let it bother me, but it’s just incredibly discouraging. i was even downvoted after being told to crochet for saying i’d love to but can’t afford the materials right now. again, stupid, but i’m just so sensitive right now emotionally and it just makes me feel like i did something wrong.
my abuser/stbx spouse was supposed to be helping me financially after i left, but that (unsurprisingly) did not happen. i can’t afford my basic hygiene needs, let alone the things i need for my health that aren’t covered by insurance. my health has declined significantly after i left to the point where i’m near bed bound, i don’t leave the house aside for doctors appointments and the rare grocery store trip, and it feels like everywhere i go to ask for help i’m overlooked or dismissed or there’s nothing available. i’m lucky enough to be living with a family friend who has me clean up around the house as i’m able to as my rent contributions, but that doesn’t take care of my other needs. i moved across the country with my ex and then moved to a new area to get away, and i really know no one here minus my roommate, which adds another layer to the complexity of it.
if anyone knows of resources or can just relate or empathize with being disabled and managing all of this, i’d love it if you dropped a comment. this all feels so lonely and even within these groups i tend to feel isolated a lot of the time because of how different my situation feels due to my health, so talking with others who’ve gone through this being disabled would be incredibly helpful i think. thanks in advance and ty for reading