I am F(23) and my ex is M(26). I have not had many relationships and I dont ask for much in relationships. One of the few things. We dated for 4 months he worked 2 jobs and also helped his family with there restaurant. He claims to have a complicated family dynamic as well such as not being able to stay out late because his mom freaks out despite him being 26? He was not a bad boyfriend in terms of how he treated me when we were actually together. He wss sweet,funny, and always nice to me. However we would only hang out for a few hours a week and then during the week we would barely text. I was fine with this for the first like 2 months because we had only just started dating. But im a very touchy person and need a lot of affection and need things like cuddles and doing things like watching shows together which is hard to do when u only spend 2-3 hours a week together.
During this time I ended up losing my job which I already felt like I was bad at so it sent me down a bad depression spiral and when I would I message him and even try to talk about how I was feeling he would flip it to making it about how his day was and worse. But I dont know if that was just him trying to relate to me or not but it ended up just making me not want to talk about my feelings. I would ask him to come over and he would always say he couldnt and I would write it off as hes just busy. He did not stay over one time during our relationship. How long does it normally take to start staying over at your partners house?
I ended up breaking up with him because we ended up not seeing each other and hardly talking for 2 weeks. About a month later he had randomly messaged me asking how I was doing and how he missed me. Then we talked for a few days and ended up getting back together. He had said he left one of his jobs which means hed would have more free time and I was really excited how ever it ended up being the same shit he actually ended up being worse somehow. When I ended things this time he claimed that he had never said he had more free time? But does telling me that you left one job and want to get back together imply that youll make more time for me? I ended up blocking him on everything because I got so annoyed.
Am I the asshole should I have been more understanding? Was I asking to much? I dunno maybe I am just to clingy 😭