Google reviews and work related harassment
My long distance ex pwBPD (m31) did everything to harass me (f27) online. He lives 13000 km away from me, but we met in real life while traveling. We dated there, which seemed harmless, and we stayed in touch after. Very very long story short, after staying in a very toxic contact where he was showing manipulative, abusive, jealous, controlling behaviour and sending nudes + other private information about me to my work, friends, family, family of friends etc I finally felt strong enough to cut of contact with him. This was the start of years long terrorisation.
I think I’m a very calm, chill person who is never looking for drama, so I never understood how he always made it seem that I was looking for a fight, but I’m quite sure I never ever was. I was frightened of him getting angry anyway.
Well, one of the things that caused me the most damage, was the fact that he posted a lot of 1* reviews on google maps at my work places. I’ve felt so much shame and guilt towards my work about it, especially towards a place where I would work abroad for a few months (still don’t know how he found out). I know it wasn’t my fault that this was happening, but I also knew the drama they had to deal with was 100% linked to my presence. I can’t put into words how horrifying this was for me.
He also did a lot of other shit towards the work places, lots and lots of threats about me too. “Tell her to contact me or otherwise…”
One of my work places were very helpful towards me. Even though they experienced a lot of terrorisation from him as well (like calling 200+ times to a reservations number, which they couldn’t do anything about), they always showed that they were on my side and never saw me as the problem. This I always viewed as very special and important to me. My wellbeing was important to them.
The place where I worked abroad though, I’m 95% sure that they were so done with his harassment and the clients they lost because of it, that they started helping him to get me away. I received pictures and information of myself through him, that he couldn’t have made himself. This is still an unanswered question and will stay like that forever most likely, but by now I’m almost certain it must’ve come from them. It was sad, because I loved working with them and I know that was mutual before the drama. This drama went so insanely far that I was forced to flee back home, after I ended up receiving several death threats from him. I’m still very broken from this. After I left I never heard anything from the owner of this work place, even though I texted them a few times.
This is very summarised, but you might get the idea. I’m wondering, has any of you ever has had it happened that the pwBPD harassed your work place? And how did they respond to it?