Strained in law relationship - seeking advice
I have been married to my partner for 2 years now and my strained relationship with my in laws began while we were dating. Mostly the MIL. I’ve had many conversations with my partner about how I felt, but it seems after marriage he stopped setting boundaries and now seems to blame me for the relationship with them. Backstory - while dating his mother never Acknowledged my texts, gifts, or anything that came from me. in fact, one time my husband called her out on ignoring my messages and she lied and said she never received them (I showed him the thread). When she speaks to me she speaks through him. Recently my parent has been sick for months and I’ve heard nothing from his family. The day of our wedding they left the wedding early (didn’t say bye to anyone, in fact I caught them leaving and it was the only reason I knew they left). Every Christmas there is a gift exchange and I’m always ”forgotten” or the “gift got lost”. I’m also in their family group chat and his mother texts as if I’m not in the chat. Whenever my husband asks them to reach out they still ask him for my number (we have been together for 8 years). I guess what makes me sad is that my husband either doesn’t care or doesn't notice. I typically have to bring it up first. and even then, nothing changes.
I’m mostly looking for advice on how to navigate a relationship with in laws because I feel like this is not sustainable and not sure if I can see a future anymore In this relationship. Has anyone dealt with this before?