Me (26F) and my boyfriend (28M) have been together for almost 3 years, we have had some issues that have been getting discussed more recently and I feel like we have hit a pivotal moment in our relationship.
For about 10 months last year, I felt like I was the only one trying to make us work - more so how to make me feel better so we can work.
There were multiple occasions where he didn’t step up to the plate.. eg. When it was my birthday he didn’t put any effort in and was on his phone for most of our dinner, when I needed a shoulder to cry on he would use it as an opportunity to bring concerns up, when I went to hospital he didn’t drop things for me. I was constantly asking to be prioritised and made to feel like I was important to him.
Whenever we would talk it would go nowhere and turn into an argument.
Fast forward to now, we have had some heavy conversations where I told him that I deserve better and I want him to give me that, but I’m losing battery percentage.
He is promising to try and I can see that he is, he’s prioritising me and he’s putting me first and considering me. Now I know that this doesn’t get fixed instantly or within a few weeks, it definitely takes time. But how do you get to that point?
I know there’s a risk in staying, it means more time and effort invested but in a way I do want to work it out. I’m in a relationship for the right reasons and I want to be able to work through this because if anything, if we can work on this now we will be in a better position in the future.
If you’ve been in this position, how did you do it? What helped you get better?