u/AppropriateFilm6892

Sunday night me (F29) and my boyfriend (M35) had an argument and we broke up. He is upset I made a joke and he did not like it. I apologized, he says he forgave me. But I still wanted to leave. I packed my things and said it would be best if I went back to my parents house due to us having problems for a few years now. We seem to keep fighting and breaking up every few weeks. Each time it is him who asks me to leave and then has some reason as to how I have offened him or hurt him. I apologize and then he says ok. I want to work things out but find it hard since it feels like he is nitpicking at each thing I do or say.

Like I got a new car. He says I shouldn't have due to him now needing to work two jobs and I have less free money to give him to help him. I feel bad but did not expect him to need more of my money to help with bills. (I pay some bills at his house already) now I have packed and moved out for two-days now to my parents house. Having to leave behind my special needs dog who needs me due to my dad not allowing pets in his house.

I today got texts from him asking for the power and water bill info and when would I be coming to get my other car.

I responded back and now he is accusing me of being shady and not returning an engagment ring that he got me but never gave to me yet even though I of course did not steal the ring I said I would bring it over to return it to him on Saturday and also get my car and other things. He is accusing me of trying to swap the ring and he will now need to go to kay Jewelry to verify if I swapped it. I want to work things out what should i do?

TL;DR: almost 10 year relationship, have a dog together, got an engagement ring, have been arguing a lot

I (29F)have been with the same guy(34M) since 2017. We were in a good relationship but around 2023 things started to get rough. We started fighting more, i started leaving more. (To my parents) he says the problem is I am mean to him and talk bad about him to my family. I dont feel like this is the truth. I make jokes and then he got offended. It seems like he is offended more easily and more sensitive then in the beginning. We keep trying to work things out, even got an engagment ring 6 months ago. I dont wear it but we got it l. I am so confused as to what to do. I feel bad I made jokes that actually hurt his feelings. I apologized. He still keeps finding it hard to move past these jokes I made. For example I made a joke like you said you were gonna take care of me. So why don't you be a better provider. I said it in my parents living room. He didnt say anything when I said it but later we fought over it. Sunday night he told me to just leave and move on. We have been together for a while, i do care about him and love him. What should I do?

TL;DR: almost 10 year relationship, have a dog together, got an engagement ring, have been on and off since 2023.