u/AppropriateAd9542

Hello everyone! Ask ko lang if may naka try na magpa spay sa 3J Pet Camp sa Saudi Street? Planning to have my furbaby spayed there. Thank you!

My mom has been absent basically my whole life. My parents separated when I was a baby, and she left the country because of a legal issue. From then on, my dad raised me and my three siblings, my sister and two brothers, on his own. She never supported us, financially or emotionally.

My dad passed away from cancer, and that time was really hard on all of us. My siblings all helped where they could, but my oldest brother carried most of the financial burden for my dad’s medical bills. He works in the medical field and was earning more than the rest of us, so a lot of it fell on him. I wasn’t able to contribute much because I was still studying then, which is something I still feel guilty about sometimes.

After my dad passed, my siblings asked my mom to come home, so she did. She has been staying with my sister for about a year now, and recently my siblings started talking about all of us contributing to her living expenses since she does not have a job.

Recently, my oldest brother also wanted my mom to get her teeth fixed, and it would cost around 100k to get it done. Hearing things like that makes me feel even more pressured because I know expenses like that will eventually be shared among us.

I know this might sound harsh, but I really do not think it is fair. I am just starting my career and trying to build my own life, saving money and planning a future with my partner, including a house and eventually a wedding. It feels wrong to be expected to support someone who was never there for me in the first place.

I also think part of the difference is that my siblings actually had both parents for a time, so I understand why they feel more connected to her and want to help. But I did not grow up with a mom at all. My sister was the one who stepped into that role for me, along with my dad. So it is hard for me to suddenly see this person as my mom and feel responsible for her.

The hardest part is that I love my siblings and I do not want conflict. My sister understands where I am coming from, but my older brother really values family and has always been the type to do everything for our parents without question. I know speaking up about this would hurt him or cause tension, and I do not want that. My other brother just goes along with whatever everyone else decides.

So now I feel stuck. I will probably still contribute just to keep the peace, but I hate that I feel forced into it. I do not want resentment to build, but I also do not feel like this responsibility should be on me.

I do not even see her as my mom, just my birth mother. And I wish my siblings could understand that a little more.