u/Appropriate-Yam-1554

Roommate situation is getting out of hand—constant blame, cleanliness issues, and involving the landlord over small things. Am I overreacting?

I need outside perspective because I feel like my living situation has become really tense and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if this is actually dysfunctional.

I live in a shared house and over time the dynamic has become increasingly stressful.

Some of the ongoing issues:

• Shared spaces (bathroom and kitchen) are frequently left messy, and I often end up cleaning just to make them usable
• There’s a lot of inconsistency in standards—small messes I make get called out, while larger or ongoing messes from others don’t seem to be addressed the same way
• I’m often blamed for issues in the house that I don’t believe I caused
• Communication feels indirect or passive-aggressive instead of straightforward conversations
• One roommate tends to escalate minor issues by bringing the landlord into group messages or complaints, which makes everything feel more tense than necessary
• There’s ongoing conflict around shared supplies and money, with expectations that don’t feel consistent

At this point I’ve mostly disengaged to avoid arguments, but I still feel uncomfortable and stressed in my own home.

I genuinely can’t tell if:

• I’m being too sensitive and should just adjust
• or if this is a genuinely bad roommate dynamic that won’t improve

Any honest feedback or advice from people who’ve dealt with similar situations would really help.