u/Appropriate-Syrup719

My SO has sole custody of his children (6&7). They’re wonderful children but they’re going through a lot with the lack of attention and communication from their mother. He has had sole custody since December after she chose to sign over her custody to him, and she has only spoken/seen them maybe a dozen times since and there have been many issues during these visits. However, she has been talking bad my SO and myself to the kids when she does see them telling them that we’re bad people especially myself. On top of this, she has been posting on her socials about how I have ruined her life and stole everything that she has built with my partner. I do everything I can to help take care of them and make sure they’re well taken care of and assisting with getting them the help they need (I work closely with therapists and child development) but I worry that despite the wonderful relationship i have with the kids, they will learn to hate me because of what’s being said. I’m painted to be this horrible person and I try my best to not let it get to me. But when do you finally stop caring about what’s being said when you know it’s not the truth? How do you navigate conversations with the kids when they say Al this to you?