Is it normal to feel lonely even when nothing is “wrong” in life?
I’m 24, and lately I’ve been realizing something — I don’t think I’ve ever really had “someone.”
Not even in a relationship sense only. Just someone to share life with.
Whenever something happens — good, bad, funny, stressful — my first instinct is to share it with someone. Then I look around and realize there’s no one I can text or call like that.
It’s not even about one specific person. I think I miss the idea of having someone. Someone to talk to every day, share random updates, chai moments, office stories, or just say “today was hard.”
The weird part is, when I see couples, I don’t feel jealous. I genuinely feel happy for them because at least they have someone. But somewhere inside, I quietly wonder what that feels like.
And to be brutally honest, sometimes I feel like maybe I’m the reason. I’m overweight, dark-skinned, not very confident, not great at speaking, no fashion sense, not financially settled, probably going bald too. So sometimes I think — realistically, who would choose me?
I distract myself most of the time, but the feeling always comes back.
Has anyone else felt like this? Did things actually change for you?