Sooo, as the title says. It’s her name on his butt. I think he got it either late teens/early 20s. He has other tattoos that he’s mentioned he wants off his body mainly because the fading/where they are located (hands and arms, not easily covered). He brought up wanting his hand tattoos removed, but not the butt one? I did find it funny when we first met (we were friends for a couple years before falling in love), but now it’s really turning me off. I got a full view of his butt before being intimate last night and seeing her name completely turned me off. Am I overreacting/overthinking this? We’ve been together for a year and I try my best to forget about it, but sometimes it’s hard when he likes to sleep naked and I catch a glimpse of her name.
Before we made things official I made sure to ask if he still had feelings for exes etc etc. he assured me that he doesn’t and he knows the butt tattoo was a mistake. They had a long distance relationship and she lives on the whole other side of the continent, which is part of the reason they didn’t work out. I feel crazy sometimes for this bothering me. I was young and dumb once, trying to give him some grace here also.
I don’t know why it’s turning me off so much now a year into this… I know he doesn’t have feelings for her, it just doesn’t feel good seeing another woman’s name on my man’s butt. Definitely don’t want to marry him if that is still there. What would you guys do??