My friend F(18) tells me all the time about her friend drama, drama with bfs, or fights she gets into with strangers. Usually, I listen and then give honest advice. I've noticed that when I'm honest with her or disagree on how she handled a situation, she gets really upset and won't tell me things afterward. Hearing about this stuff also tends to cause me to somehow be involved in the situations?? And usually I end up being the one who's in the wrong. She also tends to gossip to our other friends when someone makes her upset. I like hanging out with her, but this has really been weighing on me. I don't feel like I can talk to her about this either.
She wants to hang out soon and told me 'she has a lot of tea'. Hearing that made me dread seeing her. I'm considering telling her very politely I don't really want to hear about that stuff anymore. WIBTA to tell her 'I'd like to take a step back from stuff like that and be less involved.' I just don't wanna make her mad, but I'm tired of hearing about it when she expects me to tell her what she wants to hear.